Someone recently asked me, “where did chivalry go? Is it lost?.” While at the time I quickly answered with a confident “yes!! -We need to do something about it!” it really got me thinking; is chivalry really lost? After dwelling upon the thought for a while I’ve come to the realization that I indeed was wrong. Chivalry is not lost, but rather a large percentage of men seem to be hiding it. Yes, I did say hiding it. I honestly believe it is still in them, unfortunately they’ve had to put it away. From my point of view this can be attributed to a large percentage of women who look at chivalry with their noses in the air, laughing at such behaviors, saying “I am independent - I don’t need man - I am just as highly important as you are.” This is quite a sad thing. Because of such attitudes (dare I say bitterness or jealousy?) men put away chivalry to please them. Ladies, you are indeed important, but how is a man to do his duty with us women snorting at their acts of respects?
Do not get me wrong, men or women: I most certainly do know males in my life that are truly men of high character and class that treats ladies with huge respect. They are the exception to the above. I also know women in my life who greatly appreciate men of chivalry. They too are the exception. But those I know from both genders are in the minority. To the gentlemen that are gentlemen of chivalry, I thank you and greatly appreciate you. To you ladies that appreciate the character and respect gentlemen show you, don’t be afraid to show them or tell them that you appreciate them… and never forget to show respect back! (Sidenote: From the two boyfriends I have ever had my twenty-something years on the earth, I’ve at least come to realize that men desire respect, as women desire love. If you want the love, show the respect.)
Anyways, just some of my thoughts. Please do correct me if you think I am wrong on where I stand with this.
A Bientôt mes partisans, SLR
Do not get me wrong, men or women: I most certainly do know males in my life that are truly men of high character and class that treats ladies with huge respect. They are the exception to the above. I also know women in my life who greatly appreciate men of chivalry. They too are the exception. But those I know from both genders are in the minority. To the gentlemen that are gentlemen of chivalry, I thank you and greatly appreciate you. To you ladies that appreciate the character and respect gentlemen show you, don’t be afraid to show them or tell them that you appreciate them… and never forget to show respect back! (Sidenote: From the two boyfriends I have ever had my twenty-something years on the earth, I’ve at least come to realize that men desire respect, as women desire love. If you want the love, show the respect.)
Anyways, just some of my thoughts. Please do correct me if you think I am wrong on where I stand with this.
A Bientôt mes partisans, SLR
1 comment:
I agree Miss. I've gotten a distasteful look from a woman I've held a door open for. I just shrug it off. I won't stop being chivalrous just because someone mistakenly views my respectful action as being demeaning. I've had people get upset at the use of Ma'am or Sir, but those things are ingrained in me. On campus I've helped a number of women carry large heavy boxes they were obviously struggling with. My usual response when thanked is to reply, "No thanks needed, it's my pleasure." I guess I just like helping people and showing people respect. The world could definitely use with more chivalry. :)
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